What if your patterns didn’t define you, but showed you EXACTLY where you can grow?Why do we keep choosing the same people—even when we know better?If you’ve felt luckless, stuck, or so far away from the loving partnership you want in life, we’ve got the MOST expansive episode for you.In this powerful conversation, Jessica welcomes renowned relationship teacher and NYT best-selling author and podcast host, Jillian Turecki, for a grounded, radically honest look at why our love lives can feel stuck, painful, or endlessly cyclical—even after doing years of self-help work.They explore what it really means to take accountability without blame, why nervous system regulation is the missing piece in most relationship advice, and how to tell the difference between a need and a wound. Jillian opens up about her own divorce, how her father’s betrayal shaped her patterns, and what it took to fully reclaim her worth.You’ll also hear practical tools for pausing reactivity, unpacking unhealthy dynamics, and moving from “I am this” to “I’m working on this.” Whether you’re heartbroken, dating, partnered, or reflecting on your past, this episode will give you a new framework for conscious love.Healing your relationship patterns isn’t about finding the perfect person—it’s about becoming your truest self so the most aligned dynamic can find you.**Trigger Warning: Brief mention of “Big T” childhood traumas between 50:35 through 51:18 **Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Join the Pathway MembershipUse code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month! Join our membership to access the TBM Money Challenge Now Live!The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin our Money Challenge - 3 weeks to your next level of abundanceTake our Free Money Quiz - find out what level of wealth consciousness you are at Join the Pathway now to get full access to our Money Challenge when it launches June 2nd, 2025 – Join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% off first month) New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what’s holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: Seed - Use 25MAGNETIC at checkout for 25% off your first month@seed’s DS-01® Daily Synbiotic Bon Charge - 15% off with code MAGNETIC Infrared PEMF MatThe BON CHARGE Infrared PEMF Mat is my absolute go-to product! I use it almost daily to ground my nervous system, drop in deeper into my meditations & help my body recover after big hikes. The highest quality and most biohacking stacked mat I’ve seen on the market! Use code MAGNETIC at checkout for 15% off. us.boncharge.com/MAGNETIC In This Episode We Talk About:How to take accountability in relationships without falling into self-blameThe connection between childhood wounds and adult relationship dynamicsRecognizing emotional needs vs. surface-level triggers in partnershipWhy reactivity destroys connection—and how to build the pause muscleThe myth of finding “everything” in one personHow trauma bonds are formed through shared emotional woundsHow personal accountability and nervous system regulation can lead you to your highest selfMoving from fixed identity (“I am avoidant”) to fluid healingTools for catching black-and-white thinking and inner protector partsShifting from victimhood to empowerment in family relationshipsWhy your partner is a mirror—and how to read the reflectionChoosing partners as a reflection of your evolving self-worth Mentioned In the Episode: Jillian’s book: It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership (Including the Conflict DI, Self-Love DI, and Reset DI) Connect with Jillian!Jillian on IG @jilliantureckiJillian’s podcast On LoveIt Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast